As a recovering people-pleaser, I wanted a song for remembering to shut the door of my mind and listen to my own inner voice, rather than letting the thoughts and feelings of others inundate me and carry me away.
(Again, Iām going with the āgood enough, moving onā approachābut I will explain one blooper in this video, in case you wonder: the word āadvocateā is garbled because Iām trying not to laugh about my cat jumping through the background. š)
āShut the Doorā lyrics
I used to have to live like my mind was not my own.
Safety came from keeping peace.
I tied myself in knots around other peopleās feelings
and shrank me to put them at ease.
But now Iām learning real safety starts inside.
Shut the door; pull the curtains
all around my mind.
They can cope with their feelings.
I must tend to mine.
Navigate by what I want,
not by what I fear.
Iāve got skills to protect me now.
I donāt need to stay bowed downā
just stay in here.
Real safety comes from tending my body and my mind,
speaking up for what I need,
standing in my right to make my own decisions,
and following my own heartās lead.
And when Iām shrinking, all I have to do
is shut the door; pull the curtains
all around my mind.
They can cope with their feelings.
I must tend to mine.
Navigate by what I want,
not by what I fear,
living lights on, free, aware,
for I wonāt find peace out thereā
only in here.
I am working to make my mind a safe place
and become my own advocate and guide,
so that whatever happens, what hard things come,
Iāll be on my side.
Shut the door; pull the curtains
all around my mind.
They can cope with their feelings.
I must tend to mine.
Navigate by what I want,
not by what I fear,
living lights on, free, aware,
for I wonāt find peace out thereā
only in here.
Just stay in here.