I always identify with these essays and appreciate how you share your experience. ❤️ I tried identifying specific IFS parts a few years ago, but like you i find it easier to think of my hurt self as a single thing made up of all those varying insecurities. Kristen Neff's book on self compassion is pretty good, though it gets a little weird toward the end. Still, offering myself compassion and choosing not to feed or ignore the hurt has been a game-changer in much the same way you describe!
I always identify with these essays and appreciate how you share your experience. ❤️ I tried identifying specific IFS parts a few years ago, but like you i find it easier to think of my hurt self as a single thing made up of all those varying insecurities. Kristen Neff's book on self compassion is pretty good, though it gets a little weird toward the end. Still, offering myself compassion and choosing not to feed or ignore the hurt has been a game-changer in much the same way you describe!