🏝️ Other people's social expectations of me are their own business
My little old people-pleasing mind IS BLOWN!
A big new insight has arisen for me lately in the realm of personal growth and healing:
Other people’s social expectations of me are their own business.
What?! I’m astonished. Further applications of this insight-bomb include:
If people want more from me than what I’m giving them, they can ask for what they want.
It is not my job to predict, solicit, or fulfill what other people want from me.
If they want more from me than I can wholeheartedly give, that is their problem to deal with, not mine.
For example, if they want more responsiveness, enthusiasm, and active agreement with their opinions than I can wholeheartedly give—then that is their issue. Not mine.
And if they are needing more reassurance that I like them, they can ask for it.
My job is to stay in my territory, tending my own needs, following my own instincts and values. That’s it.
This. Is. Revolutionary.
My mind is blown!
Inner Josh is getting twitchy just reading these statements. LOL But you're absolutely right, and something I'd be willing to bet most of us need to reflect on more often.