It's awful what you went through, but I'm so glad you're in a place of healing now and brave enough to converse with those old ghosts. It's tough digging down to the really tough roots of these behaviors (as we both know!) and I'm always happy to lend what encouragement and support I can. 💪
For me, the struggle with being the decider is more an assertiveness/boundaries issue, I think. When other people need me to do something or behave a certain way, that takes precedence over my own wants and needs; otherwise, I'm just being selfish, right? It's something I continue to work at, but wow the roots of that thinking go really, really deep.
Thank you, my friend! Yes these are deep roots to dig and deep waters to delve. I’m so grateful we have the privilege of being now safe enough and healed enough to do that work!
It's awful what you went through, but I'm so glad you're in a place of healing now and brave enough to converse with those old ghosts. It's tough digging down to the really tough roots of these behaviors (as we both know!) and I'm always happy to lend what encouragement and support I can. 💪
For me, the struggle with being the decider is more an assertiveness/boundaries issue, I think. When other people need me to do something or behave a certain way, that takes precedence over my own wants and needs; otherwise, I'm just being selfish, right? It's something I continue to work at, but wow the roots of that thinking go really, really deep.
Thank you, my friend! Yes these are deep roots to dig and deep waters to delve. I’m so grateful we have the privilege of being now safe enough and healed enough to do that work!