🪷 Dear Thinking Brain
We can do better to help our poor, besmirched Feeling Brain
The Thinking Brain/Feeling Brain model comes from Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck (which I highly recommend).
My Thinking Brain
tells my Feeling Brain,
"Stop worrying. Move on."
And Feeling Brain tries,
but soon it's at it again--
plus feeling wrong.
Dear Thinking Brain,
a better way
to help our Feeling Brain
is to speak like a kind parent
to a child: "I hear your pain." 💗
P.S. I am thinking that the way our Thinking Brain relates to our Feeling Brain comes directly from how our parents responded to our feelings when we were little, unless/until we work at reparenting ourselves.
This reminds me of something my therapist and I were discussing recently: the emotional-wise-rational mind model. We definitely have to use both our logic and our feelings to make our best decisions!
I've listened to "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" on audiobook a couple times. The first time I really enjoyed it, the second time not so much. I'm not sure why, but it probably had something to do with my emotional state at the time. Obviously I need a third listen to break the tie!